Social Media - A blessing or a curse?

I think all the platforms that offer a video media chat, and used properly, for people to keep in touch with, are a great idea. They have really come into their own in the current situation. Of course, all these platforms can and are abused but in general, a good idea.

Now we are Grandparents, it gives us a chance to watch DGD and catch up on all her (and their) news. We are also kept informed by other media that doesn't involve video.

Email is also great, especially as you can write often and don't have to worry about postage and delivery times. The downside of it, is postal services are struggling.

A side to email I don't like is when people moan at you behind your back, saying they have emailed you and you haven't been in touch. I recently had that happen. I did receive an email from the person involved but not the one they said they sent. Us not receiving it or replying to it really put their nose out of joint. Hey ho!

Another bugbear is when you send emails, texts etc., and get no reply. I’m not saying answers should be immediately forthcoming but an answer would be nice.

I always try to answer things the same day, or the next if they come in late. Perhaps it’s the secretary in me, when I had to reply, who knows. In the days of snail mail, I would send a reply within a week, knowing how welcome they would be.

A different annoyance is when you become the person always getting in touch and they never reciprocate! Even when done by phone and they take your call, which I find worse still. No excuse to answer you but then never, ever, instigate a call in the first place. Or say, yes we must have coffee and you leave the invite with them to arrange but no, no response. Yet again it falls on me to chase the breadcrumbs and instigate a meeting.

It all makes me feel, that I am not worth bothering with. A nuisance that if ignored long enough will simply go away. It can and does make me depressed. It can and does lead to unpleasant thoughts. Last year was a big struggle. The black dog was biting me hard and it was almost too much. I had to fight hard to still be here. DB could feel my deep sadness but was powerless to help. He helped by simply being there bless him.

Who doesn’t want to feel needed? Who doesn’t want to feel loved? Who doesn’t want to feel useful and appreciated. Would they wish they had behaved differently if you were no longer around? Probably not. After all, if you aren’t worth chatting to whilst alive, it’s a bit late to feel guilty after you are gone.

No man is an island, we all need a bit of love and appreciation!

I would love to not feel sad about such things but it is what it is. Anyhow, I now have a brand new human in my life, to love and cherish, how great is that?